So, I got laid off.
I’m a millennial and independent woman to lost her sole source of income on a Wednesday morning. I have never had this happen to me before and I found myself terrified without a plan. As dramatic as it sounds, I truly thought my life was over.
Lay offs are never easy. Regardless of where you are in your life, it sucks to be let go of a company without warning. I am happy to say that I am now in the acceptance stage of my lay off. Now that my heart is full of love and joy again, I want to share about how I have coped with being laid off:
- Take time to rest. I like to work and as a result, I tend to invest a lot of time into work. To walk into your office then to be told that you cannot return to your desk (both literally and legally) forced me to take some time to myself. I wanted to spend all my free time sending our resumes and reaching out to my network as soon as I was let go. Instead, my lay off force me to take some time for myself. For the first time in a year, I got a chance to sleep restfully. I was able to eat foods I enjoy making guilt free without being glued to a desk. I also got to choose how my week was going to go. Additionally, I chose to invest in myself with completing certifications and creating new content to share here on my blog. I didn’t have to report to anyone and I got to be my own boss.
- Speaking of emotions – feel them. If there is one thing I have learned from being laid off is that it is dangerous to suppress our emotions. Let them pass so that you can move forward. Do your best not to make any decisions until your anger and sadness has passed. The best decisions made with clarity.
- Let people know that you are seeking new opportunities. You don’t have to have a blog to share the experiences you have been through. After telling my brother about about my lay off, he helped me secure an interview within 24 hours of being let go. A week later, I started training at a new position. Don’t be afraid to talk to your family, friends or mentors about being let go. You might be the valuable asset someone in your network looking to add to their team.
- Know your job does not define you. This was something I had to accept when I was let go. I felt like such a failure as I carried my things from my desk to my car – knowing I would not return. I learned that there is more to me than just my job title. Losing a job title does not change who I am as a person. As stressful as it is to lose a job, we are defined by the choices we make not the titles we hold.
As I face a new chapter in my life, I am taking the time to re-invent myself as a professional. I am in the process of finishing a marketing and social media certification that I have been meaning to complete for years. I have secured new collaborations for February to share with you all on my blog. And most importantly, I know now that I am not a failure. I now recognize that a lay off is simply a foundation to a greater calling. I’m excited for what is in store for the next chapter in my life.
If you are dealing with a lay off, know that you are not alone. Keep the people you love close. Understand that it is ok to be upset or mad but also find peace by sharing to your network about your lay off as well as seek help if you need it. Most of all, know that you are going to be ok. We are going to look back at this minor bump in the road knowing that we have grown to be stronger than we ever thought possible.